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Have you ever been totally content with the status quo, lacking the desire and hunger to do more than what is required to just get through? When you do not go beyond a certain expectation but just want to settle, that's when complacency sets in.  Complacency is all around us and can exists in any area of our life especially when we give it the opportunity. It is the reason why it seems difficult to win honors in a field twice in a row and why its difficult for some persons to remain at the top of the mountain they've worked so hard to build and climb. It usually happens after some successes, when you begin to feel comfortable and confident enough to stop working harder. Complacency is a state of mind where an individual gets too comfortable with his/her current state to even venture into a new project or take up new responsibilities.  It is the absence of an urge in you to aim for more, dream bigger and refuse to settle for status quo. It is that point where we no l

Do you want to achieve massive success in life? Do you have the mental strength/toughness it takes to make it happen? Well, regardless of how great your life ambitions are, achieving it all is tasking and can be difficult. This is basically because our daily activities can take a toll on us physically, emotionally or mentally. Even those who have achieved success have also faced difficult situations. They face disappointments, failure, discouragements, weakness, stress, lack of resources and so much more. As a result of all the ups and downs, some people kept on striving while some others gave up at some point. Some stay strong and persevere even when things worked against them. This ability to stay strong no matter the difficulty is called MENTAL STRENGTH . It is recognized as a critical key to success. According to Duckworth, the secret to outstanding achievement is not talent but a special blend of "passion" and "persistence". Mental strength/toughnes

I read an article that pointed out that relationships can be characterized by compassion, understanding, parties involved can be engaging, love, mutual fondness but still not thrive. I've just been wondering what could be missing amidst all tho characteristics that still break relationships up. A lot of effort has been made and is still being made daily by people in relationships to ensure theirs grow and survive the test of time.  Thousands of books, articles, and blogs have been written from different dimensions with different ideas, all in the bid to share experiences and make suggestions on what can make a relationship thrive. Regardless of all this, there are still breakups among friends, married couples, and those in dating relationships. Now I'm wondering whether we make as much effort applying what we read as we make gaining knowledge on making our relationships thrive. From my experience and after giving it a lot of thoughts, I'm certain that among all

Selflessness is an important factor in marriages, relationships, and friendships. It is the key to happiness and fulfillment. Though important, it is paid little or no attention. There's practically a lot of talk about self-confidence, self-awareness, self-esteem and this isn't bad in itself. However, life doesn't have to be about our selfish purposes all the time. Instead of living to advance and achieve our selfish goals, we can live to solve the problems we encounter in the world. We can strive to be or provide a solution to the problems of other people.  When you take time to critically look at inventors, their inventions were never for themselves. For example, Mary Anderson didn't invent a windshield wiper for herself, Neil Arnott didn't invent a waterbed for himself neither did Fredrick Banting invent insulin for himself. They all worked hard at ensuring they solved a problem they encountered while they were alive. We strive daily to outdo other pe

If you're reading this article, it means you desire a better you or ensure you are still on the right track which you set for yourself.  Integrity is the practice of being honest and showing consistent and uncompromising adherence to strong moral and ethical principles and values in the presence or absence of anybody. It has to do with how accurate, honest, and truthful your actions are.  Many times we have to make decisions that define who we are and what we believe in. The choices we face may seem to be insignificant but this doesn't mean it's not important to us. So whether it's lying about something, pretending to be who you're not, claiming to be who you're not, saying you have what you don't have. However minute what you have to decide on is, it has an impact on your self-respect, integrity, and reputation. In the world today, the people being talked about most are people who have made the choice of being on the other side of integrity. Peo

One of the things that was in the mind of God when He created man was that He wanted to have fellowship, communion and an interaction with man. In all His creation, He did something different in man that will enable His desired relationship with him to be accomplished. God wants us to hear Him and that's why He did not breath into plants or animals the breath of the Almighty, the Spirit of God. He breathed into man this breath of life so that there can be something in man that can pick up signals from the Eternal God.  "We have not received the spirit of the world but the Spirit who is from God, that we may understand what God has freely given us." 1 Cor. 2:12. So even though God seems to be withdrawn from physical sight, He wants to be involved in our lives. Every moment, He's transmitting signals of information across to us. And because He wants us to hear Him, He put in us something that will enable us to receive information from Him. Its just like havi

I see a lot of people looking so beautiful and handsome on the outside but when they speak to you especially concerning what you disagree with, their words are nothing short of manipulative and controlling. Have you met people who play with your mind instead of coming out straight to ask you for something they want or need your help with. When they do something wrong, they immediately turn the table around and play victim and suddenly make you feel guilty about something you know nothing about. This is termed verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is the use if words to demean, frighten, control, insult, humiliate and manipulate someone. It most times happens out of no where in a relationship. It makes the person on the receiving end to second guess themselves, blame themselves or even wonder if they are over reacting. Often times, the verbally abusive person calculates his words and therefore it is insidious. It is usually done in private where there won't be a third party interfe